T.J. Sullivan, my friend and President of CAMPUSPEAK, the speakers’ agency that represents me, posted this blog post this past weekend and I just have to share it word-for-word with you. I agree with him 100% and I actually include in my RESPONSE ABILITY keynote that we all will not intervene every single time, nor should we, but the world can stand for us intervening a great deal more. Here is T.J.’s post in original form:
Everyone’s telling you not to be a bystander. I’ve been talking about it for years in my confrontation program, and one of our newer speakers, Mike Dilbeck, is becoming an anti-bystander crusader. It’s a good and timely message. In a world of detached, communicate-only-by-text-message citizens, we need to be reminded that seeing a problem, stepping up, and saying something is a worthwhile thing to do.
I was laying in bed last night doing some work on my laptop and watching AC360 on CNN. Like usual, it was really serving as background noise. Then, something caught my ears and my eyes. They were doing a story on the gang rape of the 15-year-old this past weekend. Now, that’s shocking itself, right? Then, they talked about the fact that there were 20 people standing around — some participating in the rape and SOME JUST WATCHING! Just watching? How can you stand around and watch something like this. Even worse, some were taking pictures and video with their cell phones.
Can this be any more blatant form of bystander behavior? As a matter of fact, a follow-up story today on CNN and CNN.com actually talks about the bystander effect with this situation.
So, read the story and let me know what you think. What is your reaction to this?
This is also generating a conversation about whether or not bystanders can actually be prosecuted. See the video here.

I am thrilled to present a very special opportunity to members of the Association of Fraternity/Sorority Advisers this coming December at the AFA Annual Meeting. As one of the Advance Programs (formerly called “pre-con programs”), AFA members can become a LEVEL I CERTIFIED FACILITATOR for the RESPONSE ABILITY program. Here are the details as they appear on the AFA Annual Meeting website:
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