T.J. Sullivan, my friend and President of CAMPUSPEAK, the speakers’ agency that represents me, posted this blog post this past weekend and I just have to share it word-for-word with you.  I agree with him 100% and I actually include in my RESPONSE ABILITY keynote that we all will not intervene every single time, nor should we, but the world can stand for us intervening a great deal more.  Here is T.J.’s post in original form:

Everyone’s telling you not to be a bystander. I’ve been talking about it for years in my confrontation program, and one of our newer speakers, Mike Dilbeck, is becoming an anti-bystander crusader. It’s a good and timely message. In a world of detached, communicate-only-by-text-message citizens, we need to be reminded that seeing a problem, stepping up, and saying something is a worthwhile thing to do.

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I was laying in bed last night doing some work on my laptop and watching AC360 on CNN. Like usual, it was really serving as background noise. Then, something caught my ears and my eyes. They were doing a story on the gang rape of the 15-year-old this past weekend. Now, that’s shocking itself, right? Then, they talked about the fact that there were 20 people standing around — some participating in the rape and SOME JUST WATCHING! Just watching? How can you stand around and watch something like this. Even worse, some were taking pictures and video with their cell phones.

Can this be any more blatant form of bystander behavior? As a matter of fact, a follow-up story today on CNN and CNN.com actually talks about the bystander effect with this situation.

So, read the story and let me know what you think. What is your reaction to this?

This is also generating a conversation about whether or not bystanders can actually be prosecuted. See the video here.

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AFA Annual Meeting
I am thrilled to present a very special opportunity to members of the Association of Fraternity/Sorority Advisers this coming December at the AFA Annual Meeting.  As one of the Advance Programs (formerly called “pre-con programs”), AFA members can become a LEVEL I CERTIFIED FACILITATOR for the RESPONSE ABILITY program.  Here are the details as they appear on the AFA Annual Meeting website:

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The greatest form of appreciation

09.27.2009

I have just finished a whirl-wind week traveling the country speaking to over 3,000 college students.  On Monday, I spoke to 600 at Jacksonville State University in Alabama.  On Tuesday, empowered 500 at NW Missouri State University.  Then, this past Thursday, presented to my largest audience yet — about 1,800 at the University of Arkansas.
It [...]

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The power of social media — you just never know!

08.04.2009

Well, I have already Tweet’ed about this today and put it on Facebook but it just begs for a blog post — it’s such a great story about the power of social media.
This past Friday, I had a spontaneous idea to spend a couple of days in Michigan — just wanted to get away from [...]

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Go ahead: THROW A CHAIR!

06.30.2009

There is the story of a guru who walks into the offices of a well-established consulting firm and sees a cracked window. “How long has that window been cracked?”, he asks one of the office managers.
“At least two years, I think it was like that when I got here,” the office manager replies.
The guru heaves [...]

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Why I am such a maniac about bystander behavior…

06.30.2009

This past Saturday, I had the pleasure of speaking to all 550+ women at Alpha Delta Pi’s international convention.  Here, I was able to see something in those women on Saturday that captures why I do what I do — why I am such a maniac about bystander behavior.  Women all around the room began [...]

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Downloadable slideshow for RESPONSE ABILITY keynote

06.21.2009

This post is to make available for download the PowerPoint presentation I will be using in all of my keynote presentations on bystander behavior. This is being made available as a handout for anyone who would like the specific information and definitions. This is a PDF slideshow of most of the slides and, [...]

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Transforming Values Into Action at UIFI

05.18.2009

I am currently sitting at a cafe in beautiful Bloomingon, Indiana — home of Indiana University. The second session of the Undergraduate Interfraternity Institute (UIFI) is underway and in just a few hours they will see the RESPONSE ABILITY video and have a conversation for bystander behavior in the college fraternity and sorority setting. [...]

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Mike accepts Laurel Wreath Award from NIC

04.29.2009

On Sunday, April 19th, Mike accepted the Laurel Wreath Award at the Laurel Wreath Luncheon, part of NIC’s Centennial Annual Meeting. BECK & CO. received the Laurel Wreath Award for RESPONSE ABILITY and the positive impact this program has made on the interfraternal community.

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